Behold, the Updated Locations Spreadsheet (and an Update on my Location)

Before I jump into things: If you happen to be reading this right after it drops, here’s a quick PSA (directed to readers who are also in the US, but relevant to anyone living in a democracy) – VOTE VOTE VOTE VOTE!! We all have a civic duty to stay informed and participate in our democracy. Please vote in Tuesday’s election if you haven’t already voted early. Research your candidates, and understand what they stand for. And critically, please vote as a citizen and not as a consumer. Voting (in my opinion, but this is my blog, so that’s all you get) is a profound act of participation. We are making our voices heard on what we think is best for our country and our fellow citizens.

This likely means acknowledging that the vast majority of those fellow citizens have had very different life experiences than you and that the stakes are higher for many of them each election than they ever will be for you. That can be an uncomfortable experience, but it’s one worth having. If you’re treating your vote like an Amazon purchase (picking the person that promises you what you want and what will help you as an individual, even if it hurts those more vulnerable than you and by extension our country as a whole), you’re doing this wrong. And our country needs you to do better if we’re going to survive. This PSA will make more sense later in this post. Ok, now onto the spreadsheet.


In 2019, as I was leaning 100% into my career change and planning to leave DC, I made a spreadsheet to help me decide where to move. I wrote a post explaining the rationale and how to use the spreadsheet. Even though I haven’t been on the blog much in the past few years, that remains one of my most popular posts, and I still consistently get people emailing me who have questions about using it for their own search. I’ve even recommended it to a few clients (with the caveat that it wasn’t official financial advice 😂)!

The Spreadsheet Update

A few months ago, someone reached out and specifically expressed that they were having issues actually customizing it – adding categories and cities. Which is exciting! Because someone is using it!

When I went back to look at the formulas, I realized there were some shortcomings in the setup, so I decided to make it easier to customize the inputs. This post walks through those new instructions, assuming you are already familiar with the general purpose and concept of the original sheet. If you’re not, go back and read the original post!!

Now, if you go back to the sheet, you’ll see a few new things – highlighted in yellow (image below). You can input new cities at the bottom of the list, and new categories in the new columns added to the end.

BUT, for this to work and not skew the data, you also need to add some extra information. One of the tricky things when entering new data is that some data points are good in higher numbers (Walkability scores), while some are better with lower numbers (price per square foot for home buying). To account for that, you’ll now need to indicate at the bottom of the sheet whether your new category is “good” or “bad” so the standardization formula knows how to treat it. (Going back to my original post example, Batman would mark the crime column as “good,” while most people would mark it as “bad.”) You shouldn’t need to change any data or inputs to the right of the dark dividing column.

This reader was interested in adding categories for whether there were bike trails in a city and distance to a body of water. There were a few tricky things with those specific examples that I want to highlight. Keep in mind that for categories that don’t have numerical value (Y/N for bike trails, for example), you’ll have to change your answers to a number. So 1 for Yes, 0 for No, with the “good or bad” line marked as Good (if you’re measuring the existence of bike trails, the positive number is a good thing). You also can’t put in ranges for distances, but you could put in the actual distance to a body of water or a ranking (from 1-5 for example) for how close the city is based on your own distance scale.

Here’s a screenshot showing the changes, with new blank cities and categories and the “good or bad” row. The image also links to the customizable spreadsheet!

New blank rows/columns and conditional formulas! We’re getting fancy.

As a reminder, you can customize this to your heart’s content, but you’ll need to make your own copy first.

File > Make a copy!

If you do use the spreadsheet and either 1) update the data (these are all 2019 numbers…a lot has changed) or 2) add cities/categories, I’d love it if you could share that data with me or email me your updated spreadsheet/numbers!

The Me Update

(HARD turn from fun spreadsheets) After the garbage Supreme Court decision overturning Roe v. Wade that undermined our Judicial branch and the democracy that rests on it (if you think I’m overreacting, you’re not paying attention), I started thinking a lot more about whether or not I wanted to be in Ohio long-term. At a basic level, expansions of anti-abortion activist legislation could undermine my ability to have kids safely in a non-traditional or higher-risk conception/pregnancy. Or just any pregnancy. At the moment, Ohio’s “Heartbeat” bill is held up in the courts, but its future is uncertain. Additionally, and more fundamentally, I think there is something to be said for voting with my tax dollars. And when I first made my spreadsheet in 2019, I didn’t realize that my tax dollars might be supporting something like this (again, BECAUSE WE HAD PROTECTIONS THROUGH ROE V WADE). Ohio isn’t a utopia by any means, but if I were making my spreadsheet today, I wouldn’t have moved to a state that was actively trying to limit abortion access to SIX WEEKS.

The complicating factors? I have no intention of renting again. I also want my next home to be on more land, and ideally to be a property that I can grow in long term. And I’m not convinced I can afford that vision at the moment, especially with current mortgage rates. I’m loving my career change, but growing a business ain’t easy, and we’re not quite at the “Scrooge McDuck swimming pool of gold” level when it comes to my personal finances. So this is NOT an update saying I’ll be moving soon, but rather an update that I’m starting to *contemplate* moving *eventually.*

At the moment, the Minneapolis area of Minnesota is pretty near the top of my list, but I’ll probably update my spreadsheet categories to see if there are other hidden gems out there that have what I’m looking for. One definite new category: does this location still protect my fundamental human right of bodily autonomy even though I’m capable of childbirth? When a dead person has more rights regarding their body than someone who is pregnant, something is deeply wrong in our society.

Are there other factors you think I should consider when I update the spreadsheet for my search? Or other locations you think I should put into the running (nothing farther south than DC, or on the west coast, for weather and family proximity reasons respectively…). Comment here or shoot me a message!

Books of Q3 2019

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It’s that time of the year again! This is my third quarterly recap of books I’ve read in the last three months. Separated below into fiction and nonfiction. I hope it gives you some new book ideas! To read previous book review posts, check out Q1 2019, Q2 2019, 2018 nonfiction, and 2018 fiction.

This post contains affiliate links. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases. That being said, my first preference is for you to check any recommended books out from your local library! Read more about my affiliate philosophy here. You can also check books out in e-book form and download them to the Kindle app, which means you don’t even have to put on pants and leave the house to get your book. Isn’t technology grand? Occasionally, books I read and review are also available for free through Amazon’s Kindle Unlimited program, and I make sure to note if that’s the case.

Rating Categories

Ok, here’s how I rate the books. It’s a super scientific method based on my own subjective opinion. If I trashed one of your favorites, I’m sorry…but not really. My blog, my rules, my views.

  • Drop everything to read this book (DEAR for short)
  • Highly recommended (HR)
  • Good book (GB)
  • OK
  • Meh don’t bother (MDB)

Non-Fiction

  • The Scar: A Personal History of Depression and Recovery by Mary Cregan. HR. Major trigger warning on this one. Cregan writes about her experiences with melancholic depression, and specifically her suicide attempt in a psychiatric hospital after losing her newborn. It’s wrenching and real, and she uses her personal experience to tell a broader story about the search for treatments for depression and some of the science behind it (which, turns out, doesn’t really give us a lot of answers). I think the more we’re exposed to stories of mental illness and their very real victims and consequences, the more we as a society can de-stigmatize those illnesses. This book works to do that.
  • The F*ck It Diet: Eating Should be Easy by Caroline Dooner. GB. This is one I read while thinking more and more about diet culture and its major problems. Dooner approaches dieting from the perspective of a serial dieter that struggled with weight cycling throughout her life. In the book, she explains that the biggest step for her (and one she recommends) is putting everything back on the table in terms of what’s allowed. You can have whatever you want. The idea is that yes, you might eat way too much chocolate for a bit, but eventually, you’ll tune back into your body’s natural cues and find a healthy balance. Restricting food is what puts us back in a mindset of scarcity, which can lead to those famine responses from our bodies. Basically, this seems to me like a more millennial-friendly version of Intuitive Eating. Worth a read if this is a topic that interests you.
  • 100 Questions Every First-Time Homebuyer Should Ask by Ilyce R. Glink. HR. If you’re a regular reader of the blog, then you know that I’m planning on moving to Cleveland and buying a house in the next few months. This is absurdly exciting for me but also a bit overwhelming. I’ve never owned my own home before, and I know that there are things about this process that I don’t even know I should be worried about. That’s where this book comes in. Glink does an amazing job of documenting all of the things you need to consider in the home-buying process, including what hurdles to expect and what problems to prepare for. Even though it’s a pretty thick book, it was a good read and is broken up into digestible questions and sections. After reading this, I feel like I can at least kind of have an intelligent conversation about home-buying where I’m asking the right questions.
  • The Holmes Inspection: Everything You Need to Know Before You Buy or Sell Your Home by Mike Holmes. GB. Again, I’m trying to read up on homeownership now before I actually have a house to deal with. Specifically, I don’t really have any experience living in older homes (which is primarily what I’m looking at in Cleveland), and I wanted to know what I should be looking for during an inspection. This book was a decent primer, though I wish it had more examples of good versus bad when talking about different housing elements. But, it’s pretty quick to read, and I definitely learned a few things.
  • So You Want to Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo. DEAR. For those of us that aren’t a minority, I think we have a particular responsibility to not only educate ourselves about racial issues but also to do so in a way that doesn’t place the emotional burden on those marginalized groups. I’m hoping to read more on this topic because as a society, we’re at a tipping point. I want to make sure I know what I’m talking about when racism shows up (because it does) but also that I know when to shut up and just listen since this isn’t my story. Anyway, everyone should read this. And if you have other recommendations on the topic, please let me know in the comments!
  • Let’s Pretend This Never Happened
  • Furiously Happy by Jenny Lawson. Both 100% DEAR. These are two of my all-time favorite books that I recently re-read. Seriously, Lawson is one of my favorite human beings of all time. She’s hilarious, and raw, and real. She writes about her struggles with mental health in a way that is approachable. It’s simultaneously accurate and disarmingly funny. Please make sure you read this ASAP. In fact, if you don’t want to read them, I can also highly recommend the audiobooks–Lawson narrates them herself, and there were points while I was driving when I was laughing so hard that I probably should have pulled over…

*side note about Lawson. I’ve gotten in the habit of picking up copies of these books at library sales because I always seem to give my copy away. Well, when I went to read the copy of Furiously Happy that I bought, I saw that the title page was already autographed. Which led to some wonderful twitter banter:

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Fiction

This wasn’t the best quarter for fiction reading. I think I watched more TV for entertainment than I read. I read a few books, but it was a mixed bag in terms of quality IMO.

  • The Darkest Star by Jennifer L. Armentrout. OK. Basically Twilight but with aliens. And there were a couple of twists, but they were only meh. The general premise is that aliens are among us, but there are also extra special aliens…and there’s a love interest…and the girl is super special for some mysterious reason…whatever. Turns out this is actually a spinoff in the same world as one of Armentrout’s other series. That one might be better, but I’m not sure I care enough to find out. Maybe when I’m really bored at some point.
  • Storm and Fury by Jennifer L. Armentrout. GB. Slightly better than the above by the same author. At least it’s a semi-original premise. This one is a teen love story but involving gargoyles! Like from cathedrals. And demons. Another spinoff from a previous series. If I hadn’t already checked this one out from the library before finishing The Darkest Star, I don’t know that I would have read it. But it was a decent read if you need something light.
  • Serpent & Dove by Shelby Mahurin. HR. This was lovely. It’s a fantasy novel involving the persecution of witches. One of the things I absolutely loved about it was the super unique magical construct. The attention to detail and nuance in developing her magical system gives Mahurin major points in my book. And from a debut author! If you like YA fantasy, this is worth a read.
  • Storm Siren
  • Siren’s Fury
  • Siren’s Song by Mary Weber. GB. This is a good series with an interesting plot. It’s only GB because the second book in the series was a little weak…and there were some holes in the plot where things didn’t seem to make as much sense as they should have. the magic aspect got a little vague at points, but the overall plot was fun.

Ok, that’s it for Q3. Only one more quarter of reading to go! I’ll probably include a tally for the year at the end of the next post.

Anything I should add to my reading list? I’d love to hear your suggestions!

Guest Post: How to Sell Your House

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Y’all, I have good friends. Friends who are more than happy to enable my laziness. A few weeks ago, Lyra wrote a guest post for me about her move to Cleveland. This week, continuing with my series of posts about home-buying, my friend Nova volunteered to write a guest post about her recent experience selling her home, which might be useful if you want to sell your house. It also means I don’t have to try to write a post right after returning from Cleveland! Bad news for you guys because you have to wait a week to hear about how that visit went 😉

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